We are stronger together

We are social creatures, we are biologically wired to develop social bonds.  We are strongest when we learn inter-dependency, the ability to seek connection and utilize resources to help us problem solve while developing stronger concepts of self within healthy systems, family, partnerships, and communities. The neurochemical, oxytocin, helps us to seek connection, to reach out to others for support when we are feeling overwhelmed. Isolation limits our potential to access opportunity, moving against our basic drives for connection and support. Freud was misled when he professed sexual and aggressive drives are the most powerful instincts, the primal drives of human interactions are instead for attachment.  Darwin was misinterpreted and his information inaccurately used  as supporting the idea of only the fittest survive within a biological system and the system is set up and governed by competition for resources.  Darwin expressed an understanding of Fitness, reproductive fitness, and understood social skills played a huge part in that fitness. Fairness, equity, and interdependence frame the interactions within biological systems. John Bowlby reminds us social bonds are our most basic and primitive instincts, the basis of our survival, wired into our primal brains; the gut, heart, and cranial brains. Social bonds are the threads that weave together healthy attachments, connections, and our ability to relate to one another, to help one another, to develop the social courage we need to survive. It is time for a collective rewriting of the limited ideas misconstrued from Darwin and Freud that have narrowed our ability to recognize the importance of our needs for attachment, our needs to learn how to be vulnerable, and to gain strength through the reciprocity of care taking and sharing of emotional resonance, emotional resources, the energy in motion, that is infinite in its ability to create healthy  and secure relationships.